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If you have read more than 5 posts on this blog you will know my trend of writing rests upon the issues of:



Compassion / Integrity






My absolute disgust for gold-diggers, self prostituting women, women who utterly destroy great men for selfishness and deceive them with endless equivocations and manipulation.

For a rather unusual Sunday post I will be writing about all the above.

I have a friend– a Jewish man… Dear Lord his insensitivity is worse than being bitten by a thousand fire aunts, he doesn’t mean to be rude– it’s in his nature and well regardless we talk, we pray… Surprisingly I know far too many people who have been divorced more than three times and he’s included in that list. After his last divorce he asked me “Why does this always happen to me? I love God and He allows me to have a horrible life.”

Though yes God is involved in every second our lives, He has given us one gift that He doesn’t interfere in and that is the gift of free-will. My friend has dated Gold-digger after Gold-digger… the same routine every time.. the poor little victim who needs to be taken care of, protected, worried about her family, plays meek and humble but is a curse in disguise.

Currently he’s dating yet another one of these professional manipulators, and he asked me “What do you think? She’s slept with married men in the past, but she says she loves me and needs me, I can’t just leave her! She says I’m making her a better person, I feel sorry for her, I can’t bring myself to hurt her……. we laugh with each other— we’re like pretty in sync with one another. But I don’t know, everything feels right, she does everything right for me but I just think maybe she’s not the one. What should I do?”

I have heard this question, these statements by so many of my male friends, some poor, some powerful, and some who’s pocket change could end world poverty haha… sadly almost all hit a stage of doom so severe that there was no way to make it back, no way for redemption, no way to rebuild the reputation that took them a life-time to make and was ruined in a second because of some two cent floozie (A Professional Harlot.)

Impulse is like the cartoons – the devil talking on one side of your shoulder and the angel on the other… We have impulses based on subconscious and conscious processing. Impulses that are based on the subconscious is reasoning—- reasoning is the doom of wisdom, you find reasoning as to why it is okay and how you have done this same thing in the past and the consequences weren’t so bad… reasoning is completely different than REASON..

Your conscious reasons with what is morally correct, not off what pleasures your desires but what will up-hold you, maintain, mature and better you… reason often loses to reasoning.

Men claim to be creatures of reason but truthfully they are creatures who work purely on a subconscious level of impulses and learn not from their mistakes, they can never let go of what pleasures them now in order to have something better… Sometimes they just don’t know when to fold and it is exactly that lustful weakness that has allowed me to see far to many great man be made into a joke publically, to see greatness turn into trash because of trash.

So to answer my friend’s question… I will express myself bluntly… A whore will always be a whore, the same way you can’t turn a dog into cat, you can’t make a trashy woman into a good woman, into marriage material, into a good mother, into someone trustworthy or morally sound.. We as humans never change, our personality alters due to our surroundings, as it is said– evolution is not based on survival of the fittest but the ability to adapt the quickest to our current situation…. But we just mature like brandy into our character, and you can’t make cheap brandy sweet, moist, fruity, sharp with a tinch of soothing intoxication… cheap brandy, just fills an urge to get drunk, meets your moments need and leaves you sick the next day. Any woman who is willing to date a married man, to even look at him with a hope to capture him is worse than cheap brandy…. She is the epitome of garbage, morally repugnant in every way. These women have the talent —no— expertise to destroy men, to dull their senses, their reason, to silence their divine wisdom and will ultimately be the destruction in his life that will bring an end to all the good he has work so hard for.

People say “Avra you can’t judge someone you don’t know, you don’t know what that girl has gone through that caused her to make the mistakes she has.”

Stating a fact is not judgment, I don’t need to hear her life story because it comes down to this.. If you can do something once, it is in your character and you will always do it again, because to make such great errors, one has to calculate, and in the equation of a selfish adulterous/ self prostituting woman—she will always add up to what benefits her!

Most of my friends have lacked a certain level of love in their life, that feeling of being comforted, accepted, wanted, and needed… and that is why they pick the exact type of woman minus hair color…. They are “Approval Addicts.”

And as Harriet B. Braiker said:

If you are an approval addict, you behavior is as easy to control as that of any other junkie. All a manipulator need do is a simple two-step process: Give you what you want, and then threaten to take it away. Every drug dealer in the world plays this game.

What I love is whenever there is a fight my friends call me and it’s like clock work

Step 1: Guy does something that doesn’t make her happy.

Step 2: She calls him out on it and gets angry and subtly threatens without actually ever saying “I’ll leave.” But know that can leave their cash and being kept.

Step 3: He gets angry, doesn’t know why… ( A man never likes to feel threatened.) and responds in a defensive manner.

Step 4: she gets worried by his reaction and starts to cry or whine and pleads with him.. how much she loves him, how could he do that to her… that he hurt her, in a quick shot mentioning a few thing she has done for him or what she has given up for him, and how will their friends react when they see what he has done.. a little touch somewhere on the arm or chest… Normally a true Gold-digger will pick the bedroom to call him out, because she can sit on the bed make a tantrum, turn her back on him, but keep alive a sexual subconscious remembrance of what they have shared.

Step 5: Men are not good with crying, so he will try to comfort her, if there is any good in him… and to avoid any further confrontation he will give in and do what will make her happy… regardless if it is right or wrong and normally what will make happy is wrong and to his detriment.

Step 6: she will then reward him with sex.

Six steps and the black widow has him under her control yet again. She has taken from him his dignity, his manhood, the respect of others, all creditability and soon his very life and life earnings.

I find it sad, to see such powerful men, men who are living mediocre lives but are called for greatness trade it all for the left-overs of another– for a woman who has change men more often than the sheets of a bed are changed in a hotel.

People can say I’m overly religious and that’s fine, but I’m not… I have taken over 10 world religion courses, I have read book after book, that is why I can respect people from all cultures and understand their reasoning even if I may not agree.. But I have my faith, I am a Christian and with such I have what I consider my biggest asset… my moral compass, my life-abiding laws, a way of acting and treating others that has no room for compromise… Really I do believe you reap what you sow, either you stand for morality and integrity whether or not it is backed up with faith — or you’re a weak person who holds no true value… No one respects a weak person and a weak person is someone who will do something that will compromise his or her reputation, their morality for what at the moment fills their carnal needs…

Proverbs 5-6

Avoid Seduction

My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
listen closely to my understanding so that you may maintain discretion
and your lips safeguard knowledge. Though the lips of the forbidden woman drip honey
and her words are smoother than oil, in the end she’s as bitter as wormwood
and as sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death;
her steps head straight for Sheol. (hell)

She doesn’t consider the path of life;
she doesn’t know that her ways are unstable. So now, my sons, listen to me,
and don’t turn away from the words of my mouth. Keep your way far from her.
Don’t go near the door of her house. Otherwise, you will give up your vitality to others
and your years to someone cruel; strangers will drain your resources,
and your earnings will end up in a foreigner’s house. At the end of your life, you will lament
when your physical body has been consumed, and you will say, “How I hated discipline,
and how my heart despised correction. I didn’t obey my teachers
or listen closely to my mentors. I am on the verge of complete ruin
before the entire community.”

Enjoy Marriage

Drink water from your own cistern,
water flowing from your own well. Should your springs flow in the streets,
streams of water in the public squares? They should be for you alone
and not for you to share with strangers. Let your fountain be blessed,
and take pleasure in your wife.

A loving doe, a graceful fawn—
let her breasts always satisfy you;
be lost in her love forever. Why, my son, would you be infatuated
with a forbidden woman
or embrace the breast of a stranger (mistress)? For a man’s ways are before the Lord’s eyes,
and He considers all his paths. A wicked man’s iniquities entrap him;
he is entangled in the ropes of his own sin. He will die because there is no discipline,
and be lost because of his great stupidity.

What the Lord Hates

The Lord hates six things;
in fact, seven are detestable to Him: arrogant eyes, a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that plots wicked schemes,
feet eager to run to evil, a lying witness who gives false testimony,
and one who stirs up trouble among brothers.

Warning against Adultery

My son, keep your father’s command,
and don’t reject your mother’s teaching. Always bind them to your heart;
tie them around your neck. When you walk here and there, they will guide you;
when you lie down, they will watch over you;
when you wake up, they will talk to you. For a command is a lamp, teaching is a light,
and corrective discipline is the way to life. They will protect you from an evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a stranger (Mistress).

Don’t lust in your heart for her beauty
or let her captivate you with her eyelashes. For a prostitute’s fee is only a loaf of bread,
but an adulteress goes after a precious life.

Can a man embrace fire
and his clothes not be burned? Can a man walk on burning coals
without scorching his feet? So it is with the one who sleeps with
another man’s wife (in this case a woman that has slept with many men, makes him adulterous even if not married.);
no one who touches her will go unpunished. People don’t despise the thief if he steals
to satisfy himself when he is hungry. Still, if caught, he must pay seven times as much;
he must give up all the wealth in his house. The one who commits adultery lacks sense;
whoever does so destroys himself. He will get a beating and dishonor,
and his disgrace will never be removed. For jealousy enrages a husband,
and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge. He will not be appeased by anything
or be persuaded by lavish gifts.



(In many instances it’s not a husband but the relatives and acquaintances of the mistress that cause his reputation and life to be tarnished.)


A prostitute is more than a woman who receives money for services render… A true prostitute is a woman who beguiles a man, deceives him with fake sentiments of care and love, manipulates his needs.. She can wear a little longer dress, she can change her hair style, she can wears pearls around her neck, she can pretend to be something she’s not, but she will always be a prostitute no matter her disguise,!!!!!!! she will be a shame——– a legacy of man’s personal weakness and lack of self discipline, a plaque of his stupidity…. Someone who emotionally castrates his vigor and courage.


I have seen so many of my friends lose wonderful opportunities, lose shares in a company that they have worked so long in, lose clients because of a bad choice of a relationship… If you can’t choose wisely to whom you share your bed with, who you share your reputation with, you reasoning becomes questionable and no one will trust in the abilities of that man— all because of a gold-digger who is working for herself, to build a name for herself and has absolutely no care for the man.


The funny thing is the man knows deep down what she is, but because he doesn’t think much of himself, he’s incapable to let her go… These men stay with types of women because they feel they have invested too much time, money, feel familiar and comfortable with her even if they know she is wrong for them and they now somehow feel obligated to stay with her.


Kresley Cole wrote:


Why am I letting you comfort me? He stared over her head. Because I’ve made sure you have no one else to turn to.


Well these gold-diggers do this to these emotionally vulnerable men, they ruin them just enough to make sure they are dependent on them, and take control over every move they make with a little puppy face and sex.


It is like Delilah and Samson… He saw she sought to destroy him, but return time after time for pure lust and in the end he lost everything, his strength, his ability, his sight, his blessing, his true purpose—- he sought sin and as all things pertaining to life.. the wages of sin is death, whether is social death, financial death, physical death, emotional death, spiritual death…. They say selfish people live longer, hence why a gold-digger is always able to find another victim to sink her claws into.


So to all men… if you are at all like my friends— you have a woman even remotely like this… do yourself the favor to walk away.. Take it from a female perspective… Women know women…. You will be the short straw, you will be the one who pays for her wickedness and manipulation. Take hold of you manhood, have the courage to be stronger than your desires.. Sex, money, fame, even just having someone by your side isn’t worth the consequences…. And trust me when I say the consequences that occur from women like this is so severe, my shoulders have been stained with the tears of the foolish mistakes that my friends and acquaintances made by not listening to good advice.




Wait for someone who sparks something within you mentally, that can see pass her wants and encourages you, builds you up, adds a level of morality, integrity, respect to you life… That she can give you more than you can give her in regarded aspects… ending with two quick stories about two friends.


My friend had this girl; I could understand why he was with her… She was drop-dead gorgeous, I mean just utterly breath-taking… but she was a gold-digger and knew how to use what she had to keep him wrapped around her finger… He was very successful and was going up fast…. One day he went to some event or something like that, he met this girl, not all together breath-taking, she was sweet, naïve, bubbly——- he said that, the moment he saw her… he just liked her, felt like he could trust her, he felt CLEAN… it was just a moment that he couldn’t explain but he would never forget the way she smiled and how he stayed for a few seconds watching her walk away when they finished talking..


They say that horse has a unique way of connecting, a horse can go throw life never connecting with anyone—— may be loving but may not take a human as its property.. but sometimes a horse will see someone even a slip second, and that human enters the horse’s eye, the horse relaxes and will forever be bonded to that one person…. Will irrevocably love that one person and follow them instinctively and impulsively… My friend was that horse and that sweet naïve girl was that one human..


Things happened and they didn’t speak again, two years pass and nothing, but every once in a while she crossed his mind.. but he was still dating the model, he was happy with her, she gave him everything he needed, his friends hated her but he didn’t see the reason as to start over with another.


And then something happened he had a life altering choice to make.. a cross roads of how his life would end… That sweet girl that was now nothing but a faded memory, a pleasant encounter, added him on facebook… He accepted her.. Now there is one gift every and I MEAN EVERY WOMAN HAS…. The ability to know when her position is threatened, a man doesn’t need to say or do anything, but gold-digger will know when something good has popped up in his life and could remover her from the place that she has manipulated her way into and will do everything in her power to end connection between him and the good thing.


Well my friend’s girlfriend threw a world war 3 tantrum, played every card there was to play and he deleted the sweet girl off facebook.

He told me what had happened, I asked why would he even accept, there had to be some sense of reason in his mind that his girlfriend would have been upset with him accepting another strange girl on Facebook. He told me “I don’t know, I just saw her and it was like something just said accept, it was an impulse without reasoning. There was just something about her and I can’t even tell you what.”


My friend did the foolish mistake— instead of following that wonderful impulse, to somehow take the risk with a girl he did not know, but had an immediate connection with on some level —–( We all have an innate knowledge, an inner compass that really guides you to the real thing and tells you what is right for you.) he rather chose to just forget her and stay with his demanding girlfriend…. Do you want to know what happened to him? He married her, he lost his friends, he lost his job, he lost his respect and reputation, his children (they despised him for being weak.) and she cheated on him with a tennis instructor and took every cent he had. When you choose wrongly everything thereafter will go wrong in your life.. we attract what we tie ourselves too.. and if you choose garbage you will have a garbage life.


The other person is not really my friend it was a client of my mother’s… again very very wealthy man who had this dull potato girlfriend who was acceptable maybe even consider pretty, was a gymnast in the bedroom, was very manipulative but stupid—- but had him well hooked… but again similar story,, randomly he met an actually very unattractive homely looking girl… he took her for coffee and they talked for a few hours… he told my mother that for the first time he met someone who truly understood him, didn’t judge him but pointed out sweetly his mistakes even in a first meeting… He said that she had the ability to put into words what he was feeling and was unable to express, that somehow she played his thoughts and gave reason to his way, he saw a door open of who he could be, he said that she was able to look at him and see the good in him that no one else was able too.. short story— a week passed… he showed up at my mother’s spa with the coffee shop girl, he told my mother that he had dumped his girlfriend called up coffee shop girl and asked her to marry him and he took her to city hall the next day.. That man lived a life with more joy than one could imagine, she built him not only an empire in business but an empire of love, respect, honesty, trust, friendship… she was his staff, his manna from heaven. He died being one of the happiest men, she undid his past and made up for all his sorrows.

Sometimes it means being crazy and following that impulse that that lead you to someone good, someone sound, someone who knows more than a few tricks, someone who can clearly see you and transport you to another world… we never do anything without cause, don’t let go of something good because your currently stuck with something that will ruin you…. Don’t feel guilty to walk away because no one will feel guilty for you when you have nothing!

There are some things in life that can’t be traded, compromised or manipulated and the truth is you cannot measure a man by his riches but by the quality of the woman holding his hand… based on who you are with right now.. will you be measured and found sufficient?

Have a blessed and happy Sunday